Friday, October 22, 2010

Ever get the feeling someone's talking about you?

I may be unemployed but its not because I'm stupid and I got a very strong feeling this morning that someone who's blog I follow had done a password protected post on my last post about battling using words from my title. How coincidental!
Now, while I have no doubt that there are plenty of people who consider that I am leading my life in a totally wrong and possibly stupid way, there is no reason to use my situation or comments as blog fodder. I have been in bad situations before and have come through them a stronger person. If someone doesn't like or agree with who I am or what I do, they should feel free to unfollow from my posts or not comment. There is something called good manners and I feel that this person has shown a bad side to their character to do something of this nature.
I was actually considering not blogging anymore. In fact I was considering not even reading any blogs anymore. Its funny how something like this can cause doubt to creep in and destroy faith in humankind. But I cannot allow small mindedness on one person's part to chase me away from something that I enjoy.
It just goes to show that you can't please all of the people all of the time. And you can't please some people at all...and basically who cares!


  1. I think I know who you're talking about. If it is the same person, I have read the protected post and it's about her kid's stepmom who is battling to accept the situation she's been put in.

    Hope that helps to ease your mind ;-)

  2. There are some nasty creatures out there. I for one would really miss your posts!
    Like you say, if they dont like it then unfollow and go away but dont be rude.
    Your blog is YOUR blog and its a great blog at that.
    Happy weekend Momcat xx

  3. Tamara - Thank you for your reply. It probably truly is a coincidence based on the words that were used in the heading. It does put my mind at ease a lot. Thank you.

    Forever Feline - Tammy, thank you for your appreciation. From Tamara's reply, it appears I may have been mistaken in my assumptions. I am probably feeling a bit thin-skinned at the moment due to my situation and jumping to wrong conclusions. Happy weekend to you too! :)

  4. I can vouch for what Tamara is saying. I also get a bit thin skinned when things are not looking up.

    Talking from experience... not having a permanent job is not very good for one's self worth.

    You have had MAJOR upsets in your life, with Dael working now and Bradly far away you do not have your boys around you.

    You will however in due time redefine your role as Mom & provider & all other levels.

    I have had extended periods away from my blog, but people like you always make it worth the while for me to come back. Please do not stop blogging, take a break if you must.

    Finally from the bottom of my heart I want to urge you not to feel guilty about Bradley. You are a good mother who puts her children's needs above her own. As I have said... I used to be a social worker. I've met bad parents... you are not one of them.

  5. Spear - Thank you so much. This all rings so true. I feel like my whole life has changed in a very short space of time. I am glad that Dael is working and that Bradley is happy to be with his sister and studying at home. I just need to get myself settled again now and as you say, to redefine my role again. Blogging does help although I sometimes feel that I dont really go anywhere or do anything therefore have nothing to say.

  6. I will be doing a blog post about my spiritual walk in the next few days...but I strongly feel that I must share a bit of wisdom from "My Utmost for His highest"...maybe it will help you in your situation.

    "What is my vision of God’s purpose for me? Whatever it may be, His purpose is for me to depend on Him and on His power now. If I can stay calm, faithful, and unconfused while in the middle of the turmoil of life, the goal of the purpose of God is being accomplished in me. God is not working toward a particular finish— His purpose is the process itself. What He desires for me is that I see “Him walking on the sea” with no shore, no success, nor goal in sight, but simply having the absolute certainty that everything is all right because I see “Him walking on the sea” (Mark 6:49). It is the process, not the outcome, that is glorifying to God."

    Hope you have a great weekend


  7. Hi there, I also think I know who you are talking about and I too have read the post, it isn't related to you at all and pure coincidence. Don't ever stop blogging after all my friend you are doing it for you, not for other people and what they may or may not think. I for one would miss your words of wisdom if you stopped following my blog! Hang in there! Have an awesome weekend!

  8. actually, I had though that post was about me before I read it ;) my heart just stopped - and then it wasn't about me at all ;) it being her blog and all - be gentle - no one is judging you - we are all too busy judging ourselves

  9. It's good to read things are all square again. No one would have the right to judge you except yourself. If someone were to talk about you in their blog, the words they'd use would be 'strong', 'honest' and 'resilient'.

  10. Lynette - Those words of wisdom did help me and are so true. Everything we go through is not about the end result. We as humans always have a result in mind. Our whole reason for being here is about the process of getting to the result. God sees the bigger picture, we see the problems in our lives. Thank you so much!

    Lulu - Thank you my friend. Its not quite true that I just blog for myself although it does help to get thoughts out in written form. It is to connect with people like you and my other online friends who I would not know otherwise. I wasnt going to post anything but I knew that it would help me and possibly others who go through similar feelings or occurrences such as this coincidental misunderstanding to realise that life is coincidental and things like this will happen and we need to see the broader picture. Maybe if/when this happens to me again I will be able to react in a more mature and confident manner. Its all about learning.

    That Girl - Nope, I wont stop blogging. I enjoy it a lot.

    totally cooked - Thank you for your comment. Too true. We all judge ourselves and I realise that through this medium, we all open ourselves up to criticism or judgement of anyone reading but with the exercise of a bit more self confidence I wont be so quick to take offence or make assumptions in future. :)

    Griever - Yup. It was a storm in a teacup. I try not to judge myself to harshly anymore as in my younger days I was my harshest critic and examine my every thought and action and judge myself negatively. Eventually,(thank goodness) I matured or maybe just got tired of comparing myself unfavourably to everyone else (or the cool kids) and just came to accept myself. Thank you for those 'cool' adjectives that you used in your comment to describe me. Im honoured to bear those labels.