Friday, December 19, 2008
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Anyway with Sunday being sunny again my innermost wish to just vegetate at home (pathetic hey but I enjoy it) was not fulfilled. Dael slept late but mid-morning burst out of his room with "Lets go to the beach!" Now when its hot (and Sunday was a scorcher), I like to stay where its cool and shady. I have been badly sunburnt in my time as I am pretty fair skinned. No such luck! After stopping for a few supplies we headed down to the coast (I'm about 20kms inland). It was midday when we were travelling and when we arrived to try and find a parking. I could feel my patience was starting to boil along with my car! The boys jumped out leaving me to park and then to lug our bag of belongings to where they had met up with some friends at the beach skatepark. I didn't join the boys and their friends as I didn't want to cramp their style so in the heat and crowds I started to feel like the proverbial fish out of water! Dael was trying to act like Mr Tough and hadn't brought any shoes with but when his feet started to blister I had to go and hunt down a pair of slops for him still lugging my bag and dodging the crowds. Unbelievably, people actually think this is fun. Our inland visitors flock to the coast like lemmings but for me it is strictly a once a year outing. I did get in a swim in the sea and when it clouded over a bit I was actually starting to relax and enjoy. While the boys watched a bmx trick riding competition I sat on the grass and watched some artists performing mock fighting to music! A bit weird but interesting to watch! And then it was over. After hanging around waiting for the kids all afternoon Dael was ready to leave and that meant now!
I remember when I was a kid and me and my siblings wanted to go to the beach, my dad reluctantly dragging us down with all our related paraphernalia and I think now I know how he felt! So where do you go for the sake of your kids or what outing did you drag your parents on even though you knew they didn't really want to go?
PS I also did the rainbow quiz and mine is pretty accurate!
Your rainbow is shaded white.
What is says about you: You are a contemplative person. You appreciate quiet moments. People depend on you to make them feel secure.
Find the colors of your rainbow at spacefem.com.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Monday, December 8, 2008
Thursday, November 27, 2008
The kittens are 5 weeks old today and very active. They are climbing out of their box and looking for attention. Their mom is trying to avoid them but takes pity on them every now and then. She just feeds and leaves! Got a home for one but still looking for homes for the others!
The miniature dobi puppy that I have been puppysitting and which is going to Gauteng with my ex's family has disgraced itself in several ways. Apart from getting its toilet training wrong frequently and picking on several of my cats by barking and harassing them until they jump to freedom, he has also chewed several pairs of my bikini underwear and several pages of my library book! Still I relent and let him sleep under my duvet with me snuggled in the crook of my arm. My cats are very disgruntled cos puppy has taken over their mom. Never mind, puppy and his human owners will be leaving for Gauteng on about the 19th of December to move into their new spot so peace will reign again!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
And just when I thought the excitement with Bradley was over - it wasn't! The exams are finished and the classes are busy with a class project which I thought Brad was winning with. I got the info off the net and he took it to school. Next morning I asked for his homework book to sign and saw that he was supposed to have created a cover page for said project. Not done so I rushed and helped him throw something together and off to school. About an hour later his class teacher phones me at work to say that Bradley hasn't done anything on his project. He was supposed to do a section at school the day before and finish it at home that night and this wasn't done. I never even knew about it. And while she had me on the phone - Bradley was involved in a fight at school the day before and he and the other boys involved were hauled in to speak to the HOD in front of her GR7 class where she gave all involved a detention. As the offenders were leaving her class Brad apparently turned to her class and mouthed at them 'F--k you all' whereupon they all put up a fuss and reported him. He was hauled back and given another detention. After this upon returning to his own class he laid into another boy (his former best friend) and started punching him (the poor little boy was white with shock). Well I've had my experience with the schools and I realised that there was probably another side to it. So upon questioning Brad his answer was:
1) the boys had ganged up on him and picked on him and he was defending his honour, thus the fight;
2) the class were apparently calling him 'big head' in Zulu as he left the class (which the teacher obviously didn't understand) and therefore the swearing;
3) the best friend who he punched has been goading him and egging him on to fight him.
(My little angel looking as though butter wouldn't melt in his mouth)
Well, this opened a window for me to speak to Brad about restraint equalling strength and not buying into the gang mentality which seems to reign in the schools these days. But it brought back memories of me as an older sister shouting at the kids who were teasing my brother about his 'big' ears as we walked home. Things change a lot but they don't seem to change at all. How do the parents of bullies and gang members conduct their parenting? Are they bullies and gangsters themselves? Are they even at home? We don't realise as parents the small words or actions or a moment of time spent with our kids which will stick with them and impact on them as adults. Life skills are so important. Teaching your kids self-confidence and restraint is top priority. I don't see my kids as extensions of myself but as individuals who have been entrusted to my care. Disappointments are stepping stones to teaching life skills.
Friday, November 14, 2008
Word for the week in my head is : Exams - Bradley is the only one still doing them. I hope they deliver good results and he passes Grade 6.
Thought for the week in my head is : I wish this year was over! Why does Monday feel like it should be Friday?
Thing for the week in my life is : Rain! I think we've had more than our share later culminating in a hailstorm this afternoon. Luckily my car is old and the hail scars don't matter.
Song for the week in my head is : Anything but house and rap which is all the kids have left in my car and I can't tune the radio cos my aerial is broken.
Food for the week in my belly is : Chocolate - I haven't had any for quite some time and I've got a craving for some and no I'm not pregnant!
Colour for the week in my life is : Blue as in skies. We've had grey skies for about 7 weeks straight and my favourite colour is blue.
Smile for the week on my face is : Cos I'm going to get my house back to myself (and my kids) by the end of the year.
Blessing for the week in my heart is : always my family and my health and my sense of humour even when I think I'm going crazy.
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Thanks and have a great weekend!
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Monday, November 10, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Aren't her little pink ears cute?
My weekend was rather stressed what with having the old ex ball and chain around and Bradley was grounded this weekend. I don't generally like to ground the kids because then I feel like I'm being punished as well but I persisted because I needed to make the point. Bradley decided that he didn't need to go to school last Tuesday because it was Diwali and 'nobody' would be going to school. So instead of screaming I said to him 'fine' but then you're grounded this weekend. He wasn't allowed to go to the local teen hangout 'The Pav' shopping mall and the skatepark with his brother but instead got to hang out with his mother. He literally nagged the whole weekend and stretched my non-existent patience to the limit but I think he got the message that if you decide to take off school you decide to do without the fun stuff too.So this week we will start packing up the other family and sorting out accumulated junk. Let the fun and games begin!!